I received the following question the other day and thought is was worth posting.
I am a 17 year old boy. I am skinny, like many of my friends; however, I find it annoying. I really want to build muscles. You know everyone wants to have a nice body and be able to fight back and stuff. Any advice is welcome… …“Jimmy”
As you are aware, it is not uncommon for a boy to be very skinny at your age. However, knowing that doesn’t solve any problems.
Before we get into discussions on gaining muscle, we first need to address what your actual goal is. Believe it or not, your goal is not to gain muscle weight, instead, that is just a means to your goal. You actually identified what you want in your question and assumed that muscle gain will provide that. You have stated that you want to “have a nice body, and be able to fight back and stuff”. Let’s just be frank, all of us men are the same. We would like to look nice for the girls and have people respect us on sight, but most of all, we want to be able to fight and want everyone to know it!
You wish you were a bigger guy, a stronger guy, and a tougher guy.
Since that is what you are really after, let’s set out on making that happen.
This is the part that is most important. I have seen scrawny little shrimps walk around with so much confidence, that large men are scared of them. I also knew a body builder (who used to be small) that is scared of his own shadow and intimidated by everyone. He still sees himself as the skinny picked on kid he used to be. Size is not the issue, the heart is. Being confident in yourself and also being confident that you can “defend” yourself will always win the day over size.
Okay, so how do we get that confidence?
It is attainable, but you have to be willing to work for it. You also must accept that it will take time and probably not be there by the time you graduate high school, but may show up during college.
Ignore anything a psychologist has to say about the matter. You won’t be confident until you know in your heart you can “handle your own.”
You won’t ever know that you can “handle your own” until you actually learn to “handle your own”. Therefore, you need to be in a class. These are your best options.
Building Muscle. I recommend you do this in conjunction with your “martial art” training. It doesn’t need to take that long. You don’t need a gym. You certainly don’t need to listen to all those giant beef cake weight lifters giving you advice. Go out and buy a $20 pull up bar. Also get some dumbbells 5#, 10#, 15# and 20#. Then either purchase the P90X workout, or you can do the “P90X style workout” on my website. (link below). If you do the exercises six (6) days a week as recommended, you will see noticeable results in about 3 months.
I hope this helps you.
Now go get’em